Dating teaching

How to Dating?

There are a lot of things you can’t handle on a date. How do you show interest without seeming needy or eager? How do you get to know someone without seeming nosy or rude? How can you find out what the other person thinks of you, or let the other person know what you think, without upsetting both parties? Dating is a “technical job,” but this article will help you date successfully and have a great time!

Part 1 Preparing for Success

1.Set expectations. Why are you dating? What do you want? Is it a lifelong commitment, or a brief moment of warmth? Whether or not you are looking for a partner for life has a big impact on how you date.

  • If you’re just having fun and looking for someone to hang out with, the most important thing is whether you hit it off. Flirting and sexual attraction are important considerations.
  • If you’re serious about finding a partner, look beyond the shyness and awkwardness of first dates and go on more dates to get to know each other. Personality compatibility and emotional communication are important considerations.
  • Most people want both “fun” and “commitment,” but you have to know what you’re looking for in order to figure out if the other person is the same.

2.Decide on a date. In today’s society, just wanting to date isn’t enough. You have to know how to date. Because there are many ways to date, each with its pros and cons, one should not be limited to one method. In fact, try different approaches to improve your chances of success:

  • Try online dating. Online dating is the future. Create a profile, browse through other people’s profiles, and set up an appointment to meet if both parties are willing. Online dating is very efficient, not only for those who are a little shy, but also for others. However, many people will lie about their personal information, and sometimes online love can’t really turn into a real relationship.
  • Meet people at a bar or club. It’s not easy to strike up a conversation in a club or bar. You have to be confident and get along well with the opposite sex. This method works well for many people. This kind of “dating” is more informal, generally there is no specific goal, there is an eye to talk, but it is not absolute.
  • Ask a friend to introduce you. Friends at least know you better than others, so why not ask them to introduce you? Asking a friend to set you up is either a total disaster or a huge success, so why not give it a try?

3.Look your best. Maybe you tell yourself that looks don’t matter when it comes to love. It’s true, but you didn’t start out in love. Although lasting love and emotional communication is the basis of the relationship, and has nothing to do with appearance or grooming, the first impression you give the other person is related to appearance or grooming! Making a good first impression can go a long way in the relationship! Don’t forget to be yourself, because people don’t like superficial looks, words or actions. Stay true to yourself, and if your date likes you, you want him or her to like your personality and appreciate you for who you are, not because you wear makeup to look good or wear the most flattering clothes. How much attention you pay to your appearance says a lot about your personality.

4.Accept any outcome. On a date, you might get rejected. In fact, if you’re not getting rejected, it’s probably because you’re not trying your hardest. As long as you’re prepared, it doesn’t matter if you’re popular or rejected by a potential partner. So, you won’t stop meeting interesting new people, which increases your chances of success.

  • Easier said than done, don’t worry too much about the results. You have to develop a thick skin to really master it. But it’s worth it, because too many people are afraid of rejection and don’t take it any further.

Part 2 Show oneself

1.Show yourself. You don’t have to go to a bar or club to make new friends (although you can do that if you like). Do activities that interest you and that mean a lot to you. If you can meet interesting people in places that make you happy, you are likely to be on the same page with each other and immediately find a connection between you!

  • The Internet has made making friends much easier. Browse forums, classifieds, classifieds, and web newsletter lists (also known as mailing lists) to see what local events or gatherings are being held that might attract like-minded people.
  • When participating in activities, be bold and bold. If putting yourself out there isn’t your style, make yourself approachable and show off your charm. Maintain eye contact, smile slightly, raise your eyebrows, and make eye contact with the object of your desire across the room.

2.Learn to make small talk. A lot of people say they hate dating, but they probably just hate talking. It’s normal. It’s not easy talking. You usually know nothing about the other person, so you have to find common ground. Fortunately, the hardest part is just the beginning. Start small, and once you find common ground, you can go deeper and talk about a wider range of topics. Remember, you are who you are and you don’t need to pretend you like a certain flavor of ice cream or know all about a movie you’ve never heard of in order to impress someone. You can disagree with the other person and express your opinion politely. Here are some chat tips to help:

  • Ask. Ask open-ended questions that allow for detailed responses. For example, “What made you interested in rock climbing?” “Are you interested in rock climbing?” Much better.
  • Pick topics from your surroundings. It’s not the weather, it’s what you happen to be doing. If you happen to meet someone playing beach volleyball, say, “You’re a great player! Next time I’m here, maybe I can ask you to fight with me? Do you play here often?”
  • Look for connections in what the other person is saying. If the other person talks about a physics teacher they particularly liked and you know something about it, don’t be afraid to share it with them: “I had a teacher like that once. It was fun to set things on fire and make explosions in class.”

3.Don’t be afraid to laugh at yourself. You’re nervous, your palms are sweaty, your heart is racing. All of a sudden you stumble and say something really stupid. What should you do? Do you keep a straight face and be embarrassed? Or do you smile and laugh at yourself? There’s nothing wrong with laughing at yourself. In fact, some people find their date a little nervous and cute. They will laugh with you and break the ice. You can also relax and be less nervous.

  • You might as well make fun of yourself. “Wow, I stutter in front of beautiful women! Thank you for letting me know that!” This will put both of you at ease and let the other person know that you’re not too stuffy. A study has shown that humour and jokefulness are the most important elements of dating.

4.Know your choices. Don’t date everyone who’s even remotely interested in you. Although people can’t look at appearances, people who know how to choose seem more attractive, probably because they have a set of standards in their hearts, which shows that they know how to love themselves and will not date casually.

  • You can’t be too picky. If you insist on waiting for the “perfect other half”, you will definitely miss him. If there are 10 people in the room with similar interests, you should be able to pick one or two dates, not zero, not 10. Every time you go to an event, don’t show any lack of interest and leave without talking to anyone. Exchange phone numbers and face-to-face contact to show that you’re eager to build an actual relationship.
  • Someone wants to ask you out, but you’re not interested? Don’t use excuses like “I’m busy” or “I’m not ready to date right now.” They will eventually figure out that you just don’t want to make time for him and are only “not ready” when you ask him out. This is more humiliating and hurtful than rejection. Respond appropriately, smile and say, “No, thank you. I appreciate it.” Then change the subject to defuse the unpleasant situation.

5.Ask for an appointment. If you feel that the interaction went well at first, you might as well be bold and ask for a date. It’s hard, but you can do it. Don’t beat around the bush. It’s not easy to ask for a date, but the other person will appreciate your honesty. You can:

  • Genuinely say, “You’re funny. Want to get a drink this week?”
  • Say romantically: “When I saw you from across the room, I had a light in my eyes.” Since I started talking to you, I feel like my eyes are brighter. Do you want to get a drink afterwards?”

Part 3 A successful first date

1.Make a good first impression. Not only do you want the other person to enjoy the date, but you want them to like you as a person. Remember to be considerate, charming, and yourself. Try to retain some mystery and let the other person discover you.

  • Show good manners. Remember to turn off your phone. Unless you are a doctor, don’t check your cell phone or answer it. If you eat together, you’d better learn table manners.
  • Focus on your date. Don’t steal glances at others (no matter how fast you glance). Don’t act uninterested or frown. Don’t daze while the other person is eating or talking to avoid seeming eager to leave as soon as possible.
  • Don’t talk about your love history. This is a big no-no and a sure-fire way to turn the other person off. They’ll think you’re not over it. If the person asks about your relationship history, say that you and your ex didn’t hit it off as well as you first thought, so you’re looking for someone who is more compatible and will be happier together. Keep it short and don’t ask about your ex.

2.Choose dating shows that are a little exciting. Whether it’s a roller coaster ride or a giant truck show, a little excitement goes a long way on a first date. When you don’t have anything to say, as is often the case on a first date, these activities can be a distraction and increase the attraction between the two. When you engage in a stimulating activity with your date, your brain releases dopamine and norepinephrine, which are hormones associated with pleasure, trust, and love. If you can get the other person to produce dopamine and norepinephrine, you have a better chance of success.


3.Show that you are interested in the other person and are an interesting person. Don’t brag about your accomplishments, just tell your partner what you’re passionate about, what makes you jump out of bed and pursue it without hesitation. Ask them the same questions to find out what they’re passionate about. Feel the emotional impact of talking about your dreams and enjoy the process.

  • When talking, don’t forget to show your sense of humor and let the friendship deepen. It’s also good to make some romantic jokes to improve your chances of success with your partner.
  • Keep a positive attitude. Even if you’re having a bad day, greet each other happily with a big smile. When dating, don’t complain about traffic, your boss, or your job. If you really want to complain, just complain a few words during the meal and add “I’m so glad I can be with you right now.”

4.Don’t make the first date too long. Sometimes a date goes so well that you want to extend it at all costs. This is usually incorrect. No matter how well the date went, always end it after an hour or two. Here’s why:

  • Stop while you can. Dating isn’t about how you start, it’s about how you end. If you spend a full six hours with your partner, the end may not be as exciting as the beginning. Then you take that memory with you and hold it against you until the next time you see each other. It’s not a good feeling.
  • Don’t move too fast. You need time to get to know someone. Don’t deny it. Limit the date to an hour or two, give the person some space, and don’t push the other person at first. An hour or two is enough time to decide whether you like this person or not.
  • Time is shortened to ensure that there is something to say. It’s sad to have nothing to say on a first date. But it was fine after the third or fourth time. Keep the date short so you don’t start with nothing to talk about.

Part 4 Further development

1.Don’t act so desperate that the other person can’t breathe. Do not call, email or text more than once a day unless the person responds. Keep doing your own thing and show your partner that there’s more to your life than just dating. But don’t overdo the trick of playing hard to get. Just overcome the feeling that you “need” to connect, meet, or have a lasting relationship. The difference between “need” and “want” is patience.

  • Don’t plan your next date too soon. Both partners need time to confirm how they feel about the date and mentally prepare for the next one. Call each other within a short period of time (1 to 7 days) and say how you want the relationship to continue. Like once in a while? Increase or decrease the number of dates? Do you want to be more casual or more formal? Stop dating and just be friends, okay? Or do you have any other ideas.

2.Be honest. If you’re not ready for a serious relationship, you should just tell the other person and don’t give them false hope. Not interested in developing with each other, but also frankly tell them, don’t cheat them. Explain that it’s not gonna work out. Don’t say you want to be friends with the other person, just see each other more often (unless you really want to). If you intend to interact with your partner more often, you still need to be honest to develop a healthy relationship!

3.Show that you are a mentally mature person. No matter how old you are, show maturity beyond your years. If you’re just looking for sex, you need to be upfront about it from the start. However, most people want to develop a more advanced relationship. Show your date that you value honesty, communication, and respect. The other person will be more attracted to you.

  • Mentally mature people don’t rush into sex. If you only want to have sex with someone, you should tell them in an appropriate way. Don’t put pressure on the other person. This kind of thing just goes with the flow, and it might take a few more dates to get a chance.

4.Don’t try too hard. Just go with the flow. Learn to relax and put in a little thought. If the relationship becomes deeper and more serious, your unique little thoughts will create a lot of good memories for your partner. We all cherish the sweet little gestures of our lovers and the memories that warm our hearts and make us smile.

5.Know what constitutes reasonable dating behavior. There are many unwritten “rules” about dating. Knowing these “rules” and why they exist can help you avoid awkward situations. Here are just a few rules, in no particular order:

  • It’s okay to kiss on a first date, especially if it’s going well, but it’s better to ask first (” May I kiss you? “is simple and effective). If you haven’t kissed your partner by the third date, they might start asking questions like “does he like me?” and “What’s wrong with him?”
  • Men are not obligated to pay all bills. It is recommended that men, like gentlemen, pay women for drinks or movies. If it’s an expensive dinner, it’s perfectly reasonable to go Dutch. Women shouldn’t always expect men to pay.
  • Don’t expect to have sex on the first three dates. Of course, if there’s an opportunity, and it’s the right thing to do, go for it. But don’t have expectations beforehand, or you may be disappointed.
  • Don’t be afraid to communicate feelings. Something like “I really like you, you’re so nice” means a lot to the other person. However, it is not recommended to say “I love you” in the first month of courtship (even if you mean it). First of all, no matter how strongly you feel about the other person, it’s likely to change. Don’t mislead someone with false hope and then suddenly reject him or her. Second, you might scare the other person (which you don’t want to). Finally, don’t say it lightly if you don’t mean it. Don’t throw around the word “love”; it carries a strong meaning. The other person may lose interest in you after speaking up.

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